| When I was 15 years old, I found a book on body | | | | can project an air of confidence and actually |
| language. I purchased it because I wanted to read | | | | become that way. |
| something on a train journey that I was taking | | | | Here are some traits of the confident person. By |
| that day. I read the book with some fascination. | | | | the way, you will be pleasantly surprised to find |
| Later, during the day, I struck a conversation with | | | | that you knew this already, but just had not put it |
| an elderly Irish clergyman, in the dining car. He | | | | together into an entire pattern. |
| was amazed when I told him that I could tell what | | | | Speech. A confident person is spontaneous in their |
| he was thinking and feeling. He challenged me. And | | | | speech. They speak without hesitation, and often |
| for the next 15 minutes, I told him what his | | | | with a great deal of enthusiasm. They also tend |
| passing moods were. | | | | to be charming and entertaining. |
| I laughed when he asked me if I were psychic. I | | | | Eyes. A confident person establishes more eye |
| explained to him that a person reveals his inner | | | | contact and has longer eye contact than |
| life by the way he moves his body. There is a | | | | someone who is nervous or bashful. They rarely |
| language that one can read if you know the | | | | blink, although this is not always true. |
| symbols. I spent a fascinating time revealing the | | | | Hands. Hands usually gesture outwardly, away |
| secrets to him. He said that he would find the | | | | from the body, as if seeking to push or change |
| information very useful in counseling and advising | | | | the surrounding air around him. Internally, this |
| people. | | | | signifies that the confident person has a belief |
| Today I still find the study of body language | | | | that he or she can positively influence people and |
| interesting. It is useful in getting to know anyone | | | | events. A common gesture, when sitting, is to |
| and helps in communicating with them. I suppose | | | | steeple or taper the hands, so they resemble a |
| it can be used for sales, negotiations, relationship | | | | church steeple. |
| building, and any other kind of human interaction. I | | | | Face. Usually the expressions on the face are in |
| find it useful in getting a psychological profile on | | | | line with the flow of the conversation. If it is |
| someone without my asking. | | | | bantering, the face looks as playful as a child's |
| To illustrate my point, I will talk about confidence. | | | | face. If it is serious, the expression is stern and |
| How can you tell if someone is confident? Also, if | | | | determined. |
| you learn the language of body confidence, you | | | | |